How to deal with relatives who do not appreciate your work but act ignorant and avoid saying anything at all...
Dealing with relatives who ignore or fail to acknowledge your work—especially when it means a lot to you—can feel deeply hurtful, especially if their silence is deliberate or stems from jealousy, insecurity, or emotional immaturity. Here are some thoughts on navigating this:
🌿 1. Recognize That Silence Can Say a Lot
Sometimes, silence isn't neutral. It can be:
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Passive aggression
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Envy
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Discomfort (they may not know how to respond to your success)
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Or simply indifference
Understanding this helps you detach from expecting validation from those who may not have the capacity to offer it.
🌸 2. Shift the Focus from Validation to Purpose
Ask yourself:
Why do I do what I do? Who am I really trying to serve?
If your work comes from a place of sincerity, creativity, faith, or personal growth, then its value exists independently of their approval.
🛡️ 3. Protect Your Energy
Don't let their silence steal your light. Consider:
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Sharing less with them if it causes distress.
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Celebrating your milestones with those who genuinely uplift you (even if it’s an online or spiritual community).
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Creating emotional boundaries. You don't have to exile them, but you also don't need to offer your heart to indifference.
🧠 4. Acknowledge the Pattern Without Confrontation (If Unnecessary)
Sometimes, it's enough to know what's happening:
“They never comment on what I do. That’s okay. They’re revealing their own lens, not reflecting my worth.”
If confrontation is necessary, it should be gentle, not accusatory. But often, the best power move is silence + consistent excellence.
💬 5. Find Your Circle of Witnesses
Every creative soul, dreamer, or believer needs:
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People who “see” you genuinely
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People who understand the meaning of your work
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People who cheer even for the small things
If your relatives aren’t those people, find (or build) that community elsewhere. Sometimes Allah places strangers in our lives to remind us that we are seen when the familiar ones go blind.
🌙 A Spiritual Note
“Indeed, Allah is All-Knowing, All-Seeing.”
(Qur’an 4:134)
If you’re doing good work—whether it’s creative, spiritual, or emotional—then nothing is lost. Even when humans fail to acknowledge it, your Lord has already recorded it.
🌺 Final Thought
Not everyone is meant to understand your calling. And some people will only recognize your value when it’s popularized or praised by outsiders.
So keep going. Their silence isn’t your failure—it’s their limitation.
🌙 When They Stay Silent
For the dreamers whose kin stay quiet…
They saw the work—
but said no word.
Not praise,
not question,
not even a passing hum of regard.
They scrolled past your soul
as if it were wallpaper.
Beautiful.
But invisible.
And you—
you wondered if your light was too soft,
or your truth too strange.
But my dear,
you weren’t made to fit inside their quiet cages.
Let their silence be a mirror,
not a measure.
Let it show you their limits,
not your lack.
Keep creating.
Keep speaking.
Keep rising.
Because the moon doesn’t ask the stars for applause.
It simply shines—
and lights the night for those who are watching.
And even if no eye sees it,
The One Who made it, does.
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